lessons on the dawn of my 28th birthday

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Well, the writer is back! and today I’m returning from my one-year break with a post that’s a little out of the ordinary. You see, it’s my birthday today. I’m officially twenty-eight, yes twenty-eight. That aside, this mean I will now be in my ‘late twenties’ Egad!!! And while birthdays elicit little in the way of fuss or fanfare, for me they do inspire a great deal of introspection. So, as I blow out the candles and enjoy a slice of cake or two, I am not one of those people who are afraid to age. However, every year I look back hoping I have made progress, not just with my goals but progress with who I am as a person, so I get a little anxiety every time my birthday comes around. I want to grow and become a stronger, wiser, and more productive version of myself.

Year 27 was completely crazy but absolutely rewarding. I mean…I have hopped across from one job, thought, idea, introspection to another, to say but a few, said goodbye to everything I know, to live a whole new life surrounded by new circumstances. It’s been great. I mean, I have my ups and downs. Can’t always be peachy. So sometimes, life is a little bit of a roller coaster. I had to adjust to this new kind of life styles and all the new environment, a new job that I am looking forward to, and of course which will take me a few months to really master. But I know I will pull it through. I have learned so much about myself and others along the way. It’s crazy to think that it has already been almost a year. It feels like I just ushered in 27th year like yesterday. Now I am moving in a beautiful home with my best friend, I have a ton of new acquaintances, I am meeting new people that we somehow have similar vision, similar passion, similar life purpose, as opposed to the previous audience that I have had. I mean we share so much in common and am glad that I have found what I can sort of call real connection.

One thing I have learned along the way is that to grow you have to make mistakes, which shapes us in one way or another. This is how you learn., I am also learning that with every good also comes the bad. The good that I thought I had initially, turned out to be the worst, but am glad it pardoned me to get out of my comfort zone and just push towards what I rightfully deserve. I have made a few mistakes this year, minor, but still significant enough to realize I need to make some changes. This is where my promises to myself come in. 

And Here are some lessons I have learnt on my 28th year: see also  —>Run Your Own Race:

  • You don’t have to have all answers
    No-one expects you to. So, what if you don’t know where you’ll be next year, next month, or even next week? Life is a learning process. The promise of possibility and the unknown is what makes the future so exciting.
  • Books aren’t a luxury, they are a necessity.

The stories held within their pages have provided comfort, support, and inspiration during some of the most difficult moments of my life. Books are life-changing, life-saving, and one of the few unwavering constants in my past, my present, and my future

This doesn’t mean compromising your values or your voice in the interest of being ‘nice’. But empathy and compassion cost nothing. Reach out a hand in assistance, rather than slapping one away out of fear. You have the power to change someone’s life, and wouldn’t you much rather it be for the better?

  • Not everyone is going to like you.

Freeing yourself from the burden of other people’s expectations, demands, and judgements is one of the most liberating and valuable gifts one can give themselves. You can’t please everyone. You won’t please everyone. And that’s okay. however,respect yourself enough to walk away from such kind of people who threatens your peace, you can only love them from the balcony.

  • Celebrate life’s small wonders
  • Self-care is not selfish.

 Taking a regular inventory of your physical, mental and emotional health and acting accordingly is not only not selfish, it’s necessary. After all, you can’t take care of anyone else until you take care of yourself.

  • There is no such thing as guilty pleasure.

So, Dance along to Uptown Funk. Sing aloud to Shake It Off. Read Twilight. Write fanfiction. Do whatever. If it makes you happy and it doesn’t hurt anyone else, there is absolutely no need to feel guilty. Life’s too short to police what brings you joy

  • Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

There is a serene tranquility and clarity to be found in solitude. Become comfortable with your own company. Find the rhythm in your heartbeat. Find the movement in the stillness. Find your voice in the silence. You never know what you might discover when there are no outside diversions to distract you

  • Focus on what you do have rather than what you don’t have
  • Don’t apologize for who you are There are people – lots of people, in fact – who will love you for being just that.
  • Sometimes you speak the loudest when you say nothing at all.
  • You don’t have to shout the loudest to be heard. Be an ally. Invite others to the table. Amplify other voices. Do not talk over those that need to be heard. Remember that silence does not always equal complacency or con-donation.
  • Everyday holds the promise of a new beginning Make new mistakes.

Learn new lessons. Take new chances. Your past does not have to define your present or your future.

  • Forgiveness is a gift one gives to oneself.

As difficult as it can be to let go of, it does no good to dwell on past offences. Cast off the anger, the insecurity, the resentment and the bitterness that weigh you down and threaten your lightness of being. Don’t allow these feelings to have power over your life or intrude upon your pursuit of happiness one second longer.

  • The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with God and yourself. Go love yourself now.
  • It’s okay not to be okay. see also RISING UP AFTER HITTING ROCK BOTTOM.

There will be days when optimism seems impossible and the simple act of getting out of bed feels like too much to bear. That’s okay. Let it out. Talk it through. Unplug. Unwind. There is no shame in the struggle. Just know that you do not have to struggle alone. And this is a topic for another day

  • It gets better.

The good news is that no matter how anxious, how depressed, or how lost you feel, there is always hope. There is always the possibility of tomorrow. Even if it doesn’t seem like it. Even if you must take it one minute at a time.

  • The first step is always the most difficult. Take it anyway.

Life often begins the moment we step outside of our comfort zone.

  • It is only the beginning.

 If you could share one life lesson you’ve learned, be it silly or serious, what would it be? How has this effected the way you live in the world? Let me know in the comments – I would love to hear from you!


sending you all love and light .


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